tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.comments2023-06-16T00:47:17.272+10:00Daily Voice DialogueAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05853380521340938013noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-59725754101244996622011-06-23T11:04:19.243+10:002011-06-23T11:04:19.243+10:00Hi Ingrid - thanks for the link, and you are most ...Hi Ingrid - thanks for the link, and you are most welcome to translate this post into Norwegian. Wishing you all the best.Astra Niedrahttp://www.voicedialogue.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-61581778777888211892011-06-23T05:27:07.272+10:002011-06-23T05:27:07.272+10:00Hi! I've linked to your blog and this article ...Hi! I've linked to your blog and this article from mine: <br /><br />freudfri.blogspot.com<br /><br />And I wonder: Would it be OK for you if I translated this into Norwegian and posten it in my Norwegian blog? Crediting you, of course, and linking to your blog.Ivaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09002477784275303313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-20476963631399819942011-06-21T23:02:57.153+10:002011-06-21T23:02:57.153+10:00I believe you are right - in reality often the bad...I believe you are right - in reality often the bad boy is just what he is: a bad boy. Each self (there are many selves in the human psyche - if you are not familiar with this idea, please see my web site or voicedialogue.org for an explanation) is what it is, and if a person is identified with a particular self, then that person will have the characteristics, feelings, values of that self - there will be little else available to the person, or if there is then the most primary self will usually control how the person behaves. <br /><br />I think most conditioning of girls comes from culture in general, and from parents and schools, rather than from particular films such as this one, which I actually think questions some stereotypes (the female lead rejects Jack Sparrow and goes for William and she rejects society's expectations of her and finds her strength and other, more pirate-like, energies).<br /><br />When girls and women are attracted to bad boys it is because they have disowned in themselves, or at least don't feel it is acceptable to express, the energies the 'bad boy' owns. Such a woman is most likely identified with some sort of good girl or mother, and probably has romantic ideas about the bad boy lifestyle. She is attracted to him as she is projecting her disowned bad-boyishness onto him, which tends to include such qualities as adventurousness and freedom, something which, for instance, many teenage girls crave, a craving which is intensified during those years because teenagers are pressured to buckle down and study and be so not-free at a time when they are wanting to explore the world outside the family home. Many adult women too who are identified with responsibility in some form would be attracted to bad boy energy, or they might judge it, or both, at different times. <br /><br />But if the good girl had some Aware Ego (again see web sites for info) and was able to access other selves within her own psyche, and find her own pirate energy, then she would no longer be drawn to real life pirates and would instead seek a different type of man. <br /><br />And if the bad boy also would unhook from the total identification with that energy, then he might find a good boy within himself who did in fact have a heart of gold!Astra Niedrahttp://www.voicedialogue.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-73954938364874842812011-06-21T12:50:55.889+10:002011-06-21T12:50:55.889+10:00I have an observation about the pirate type of man...I have an observation about the pirate type of man. The trouble is that more often than not we believe the 'bad' guy actually has a heart of gold just like this character. Unfortunately the bad boy is often just what he is and hasn't got a heart of gold. I think girls and women believe, as I have, that bad means good and good means bad and this confusion comes from powerful stories like this. Also Enid Blyton, a children's author, who portrayed the crooks of men with hearts of gold if you just look hard enough, held this position. Later on in life, this false image results in getting involved and then hurt with a true pirate. And if a woman then wonders where she went so wrong, maybe it's this sort of powerful conditioning when young that results in a lot of confusion later on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-10962547040589019292009-09-24T15:44:46.904+10:002009-09-24T15:44:46.904+10:00Hi Astra - it's really very helpfull to get re...Hi Astra - it's really very helpfull to get rekatively simple tool to be free (more or less) from negative bonding pattern. However how to free oneself from oh-so-sweet and addictive positive bonding pattern?<br />with hugs<br />RobertRobert Palusińskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17155969635577960628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-6854383239505529512008-07-14T10:50:00.000+10:002008-07-14T10:50:00.000+10:00If you want to look at this from a Freudian perspe...If you want to look at this from a Freudian perspecive, then, perhaps, yes. However, from a Voice Dialogue perspective the energy patterns you could categorise as being a part of Freud's id are not stuck with such a negative label. The more a person unhooks from their primary (usually socialised self), and the more they are able to look at opposite (some of which are disowned) parts of themselves without the judgments of the primary self, the more they are able to honour and embrace the essence of those parts, then the less polarised and negative those other parts become. There's heaps more explanatory info on www.voicedialogue.com and in Hal and Sidra Stone's books, particularly Embracing Our Selves and the tape/CD set The Aware Ego available from their site www.delos-inc.com.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853380521340938013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-83679759910013360142008-07-10T09:31:00.000+10:002008-07-10T09:31:00.000+10:00So, you feel that we are hearing the voice from Le...So, you feel that we are hearing the voice from Ledger's "ID"?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-88934001554623569892008-04-03T01:32:00.000+11:002008-04-03T01:32:00.000+11:00If you are interested in this theme you must see t...If you are interested in this theme you must see the classic movie Sunset Boulevard, and also David Lynch's recent Inland Empire.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175696641490182889.post-42500045097018034832008-03-20T20:12:00.000+11:002008-03-20T20:12:00.000+11:00Hi Astra! I've just learned Voice Dialogue - i rea...Hi Astra! I've just learned Voice Dialogue - i read Embracing Our Selves and then last weekend did an introductory facilitation workshop in London with John Kent (voice dialogue uk). I've been practising voice dialogue daily since then, both with some of my clients (i'm a therapist) and on my own - having meetings with whichever of my selves show up(!). I agree with you, as what i've found is that using this technique promotes inner clarity and a profound peace of mind because all parts of me get to express their thoughts and feelings, and FEEL HEARD, no matter what they are.Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11906858357798464815noreply@blogger.com